7 behaviors self-respecting men never tolerate in a relationship, according to psychology

Do you know the difference between compromise and losing oneself in a relationship?

As a relationship expert and founder of the Love Connection blog, I’ve seen my share of admirable men compromising too much, blurring that line.

Self-respecting men, have certain non-negotiables when it comes to relationships.

These are behaviors they simply will not tolerate.

So buckle up, get ready to do some introspection, and let’s dive into these behaviors that no self-respecting man should ever tolerate in a relationship.

1) Disrespectful behavior

Let’s get this straight.

Self-respecting men do not tolerate disrespectful behavior in a relationship. Psychology tells us that respect is a fundamental aspect of any human relationship and it’s something that can’t be compromised.

Disrespect can take many forms – from constant belittling to dismissive attitudes, and it’s something that eats away at the fabric of a relationship. It undermines the self-esteem of the person on the receiving end and creates a toxic environment.

For self-respecting men, being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to tolerate being put down or belittled. They know their worth and they expect their partners to respect them just like they respect their partners.

And, if you’re in a relationship where disrespect has become the norm, it’s time to take a step back and reassess. Because no one deserves to be treated with disregard.

2) Lack of personal space

Here’s something you might not expect.

Most people think that being in a relationship means being together all the time. But that isn’t always healthy.

Having personal space is crucial. It allows us to maintain our individuality, pursue our own interests, and recharge our mental batteries. Believe it or not, self-respecting men value their personal space and they don’t tolerate its constant invasion.

Don’t get me wrong, sharing time with your partner is essential. But so is respecting each other’s need for some alone time.

If you’re in a relationship where your personal space is frequently invaded, it’s time to have a serious discussion. Remember, a relationship should enhance your life, not engulf it completely.

3) Codependency

Here’s a lesson I learned the hard way.

Codependency in a relationship is not sustainable. It’s a web of excessive emotional reliance and it’s something that self-respecting men will never tolerate.

In fact, I’ve dedicated a whole chapter to this in my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, highlighting the importance of maintaining individuality and independence even while being part of a couple.

A healthy relationship requires two independent individuals who choose to be together, not two people who feel they can’t survive without each other.

When you’re finding yourself losing your identity in the relationship or feeling like you can’t function without your partner, it’s time to reassess. Healthy love isn’t about dependency, it’s about choice.

4) Dishonesty

Let me share a bit of wisdom I’ve picked up over the years.

Dishonesty is something that self-respecting men will not tolerate in a relationship. Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship and it’s built on honesty. When that honesty is compromised, the trust crumbles.

As William Shakespeare once said, “Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself.” These words hold true in relationships as well.

If you’re in a relationship where dishonesty is a recurring theme, it’s time to have a serious talk. Understand, trust once broken is hard to rebuild. Don’t let dishonesty break the bond you share with your partner.

5) Emotional unavailability

I’ve seen it too many times in my line of work.

Emotional unavailability is a behavior that self-respecting men just won’t stand for in a relationship. It leaves one feeling unheard, unseen, and frankly, unloved.

A relationship should be a safe space where you can share your thoughts, feelings, and fears without judgment. But when a partner is emotionally unavailable, that safe space becomes non-existent.

From my experience, emotional availability is not just about sharing happy moments. It’s also about being there for each other during times of stress or sorrow.

 After all, everyone deserves to be with someone who genuinely cares about their feelings and well-being.

6) Lack of support

Let me share a personal insight with you.

In my experience, self-respecting men won’t tolerate a lack of support in a relationship. It’s about being each other’s cheerleaders, lifting each other up when times are tough, and celebrating wins together.

As the great Helen Keller said, “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” This is especially true in relationships. We need our partner’s support to feel safe, loved, and valued.

A relationship should elevate you, not diminish you.

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7) Emotional abuse

Let’s not sugarcoat this.

Emotional abuse is something that no one should tolerate, especially not self-respecting men. It’s often subtle, hidden under layers of manipulation and control, but its impact is profound and damaging.

It can take the form of constant criticism, intimidation, or even gaslighting – a manipulative tactic where a person is made to question their own reality. It’s a corrosive behavior that erodes self esteem and personal happiness.

If you’re in a relationship where you’re constantly walking on eggshells, feeling anxious and belittled, it’s time to take action. No one deserves to be emotionally abused. You deserve respect, kindness, and love – nothing less.

Final thoughts

The complexities of human behavior, especially in the context of relationships, are fascinating. In our discussion of the behaviors that self-respecting men don’t tolerate in relationships, we’ve seen a common thread: respect, honesty, and personal space are paramount.

Each of these elements not only contributes to a healthier relationship but also promotes personal growth. Yet, it’s important to remember that every individual is unique and what works for one may not work for another.

Relationships are a journey, and navigating them requires resilience, understanding and a strong sense of self-worth.

In the end, you deserve respect and happiness in your relationship. Don’t settle for less.