We all have moments where life feels heavy—when joy seems out of reach and happiness feels like a distant memory. It’s easy to believe that this is just the way things are, or that we’ve simply grown out of happiness.
But often, it’s the habits we unconsciously hold onto that drain our energy and block us from experiencing true joy. The good news? You have the power to change that.
By identifying and letting go of certain behaviors, you can open the door to a more fulfilling and joyful life.
Today, we explore seven habits that might be standing between you and happiness.
Ready to make room for joy again? Let’s dive in.
1) Overthinking
Overthinking is a common habit that many of us fall into, often without even realizing it. It’s as if our brain is on autopilot, tirelessly working through scenarios and possibilities.
But here’s the catch. Overthinking rarely leads to solutions. Instead, it drains our energy, creates anxiety and robs us of our joy. As noted by the folks at Cleveland Clinic, it can even be a symptom of depression.
Think about it. How often have you found yourself stuck in a loop of negative thoughts, only to realize that it’s not helping you at all, or worse yet, making you less happy?
Breaking free from this habit can be challenging, but it’s crucial for reclaiming your happiness. Start by practicing mindfulness, focusing on the present moment, and learning to let go of things you can’t control.
Life is too short to be spent worrying about every little thing.
2) Neglecting self-care
I’ll be honest, I used to be terrible at taking care of myself.
I was always busy, always on the go, always trying to do more. I thought taking time for self-care was selfish, or even lazy. But boy, was I wrong.
It took a toll on my happiness and joy. I was constantly stressed, tired, and irritable. My life felt like a series of tasks to complete rather than something to be enjoyed.
Then I realized self-care isn’t selfish. It’s necessary.
As acknowledged by experts like those at Choosing Therapy, self-care is associated with a host of benefits, including happier relationships, increased productivity, better sleep, and reduced risk of burnout. These things are essential to a joyful life!
But what is considered self-care?
Well, it’s not all bubble baths and spa days; it could be as simple as taking a break when you need one, eating healthy meals, getting enough sleep, or even spending time doing something you love.
When I started prioritizing self-care, my life changed. I had more energy, my mood improved, and, most importantly, I felt happier.
So trust me when I say this – if you’re feeling joyless and unhappy, one of the first things you should look at is your self-care habits. Are you neglecting your own needs?
3) Holding onto grudges
We’ve all experienced hurt and disappointment at some point. And sometimes, it’s hard to let go of the bitterness and resentment we feel.
But holding onto grudges? It’s like carrying a heavy weight around with you everywhere you go. It drains your energy, clouds your judgment, and steals your joy.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, is liberating. It doesn’t mean forgetting what happened or condoning bad behavior. It simply means letting go of the burden that resentment brings.
When we forgive, we free ourselves from the chains of the past and open up space for happiness and peace in our lives.
4) Comparing yourself to others
This is such a huge one.
Social media, with its highlight reels of perfect lives, makes it all too easy for us to compare ourselves to others. We see their achievements, their happy moments, their seemingly perfect lives…and we measure ourselves against them.
It’s easy to say this is harmless, but experts have acknowledged that this can be very dangerous. Those at Better Help, for instance, have noted that “Social comparison can lead to increased depression symptoms, anxiety, and other mental health conditions.”
When we compare our behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel, we’re setting unrealistic standards for ourselves based on a filtered version of someone else’s life.
The truth is that everyone has their own path with different timelines, different challenges, and different successes. Comparing yourself to others won’t bring you joy or happiness.
Instead, focus on your own journey, your own growth, and your own achievements.
5) Fear of failure
I’ve always been a bit of a perfectionist. I used to avoid trying new things or stepping out of my comfort zone because I was afraid of failing.
This fear held me back, keeping me from experiencing new things and exploring new opportunities.
But here’s what I’ve come to realize: Failure isn’t something to be feared. It’s something to be embraced. It’s a stepping stone on the path to success. It’s a teacher showing us what doesn’t work and pushing us to find what does.
Letting go of the fear of failure can open up a world of possibilities. It can lead to growth, learning, and, yes, even joy. Because when we’re not afraid to fail, we’re free to take risks, try new things, and make the most out of life.
6) Living in the past
Living in the past, whether it’s dwelling on old mistakes or longing for good times gone by, can lead to sadness and regret.
Life is happening right now. Each moment is an opportunity for joy, love, and discovery. By focusing on the past, we’re missing out on these precious moments.
It’s important to learn from our past, but let’s not live there. Let go of the habit of living in the past and embrace the present. That’s where happiness lives.
We can’t change what has happened, but we can control how we live today. Choose joy and happiness now.
7) Negativity
This is perhaps the most impactful habit to say goodbye to. Negativity can be like a dark cloud that overshadows all the good in your life.
The worst part is that negativity breeds more negativity. It can affect your mood, your health, and your relationships.
But here’s the great news. You have the power to change it.
Start by becoming aware of your thoughts. When you find yourself slipping into negativity, stop and redirect your thoughts to something positive. It might feel forced at first, but with practice, it will become more natural.
It’s not about ignoring the bad stuff. It’s about focusing on the good and not letting the negative take over.
Final thoughts: It’s about choices
Letting go of these habits won’t happen overnight, and that’s okay. As American psychologist Carl Rogers once said, “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.”
What matters is recognizing them and taking small steps toward positive change. You have the power to shape your life and create space for joy, even when it feels hard.
Each day is an opportunity to choose better habits, prioritize your well-being, and focus on what truly brings you happiness. Which habit are you ready to say goodbye to today?
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