If someone displays these 8 subtle behaviors, they secretly don’t enjoy hanging out with you

We all cherish those hangout sessions with friends—those times filled with laughter, shared stories, and Instagram-worthy moments.

But here’s a reality check: not everyone you spend time with is genuinely invested in being with you. Tough, but true.

Sometimes, what seems like a casual meetup might actually be a sign that your friends aren’t as enthusiastic about hanging out as you are.

They won’t say it outright; instead, they’ll show it through subtle, often unnoticed behaviors.

In this eye-opening article, we’ll peel back the layers and uncover 8 signals that scream, “I’d rather be lounging on my couch.”

Get ready for a deep dive into the hidden truths of human behavior. It’s time to face the facts and see things for what they really are.

1) They’re constantly checking their phone

Everyone knows that it’s polite to give someone your undivided attention when you’re spending time with them, especially if it’s one-on-one.

However, if the person you’re hanging out with is constantly on their phone, it could be a sign that they’re not really interested in your company.

Excessive phone use during hangouts can indicate a few things.

They might be bored, looking for distractions, or even communicating with someone else they’d rather be with.

Don’t get me wrong, everyone checks their phone now and then.

But if it feels like they’re more engaged with their screen than with you, it could be a subtle sign that they secretly don’t enjoy hanging out with you.

2) They always seem in a rush

Time is a precious commodity. How we choose to spend it can say a lot about our priorities.

When someone always seems rushed during your time together, it might suggest they’d rather be elsewhere.

Often, people who don’t enjoy hanging out with you will constantly check the time or mention their next appointment.

They might even cut short your time together without a reasonable explanation.

People who are continually rushing through activities and conversations are often doing so as a defense mechanism.

It’s their way of avoiding deeper connections or situations they find uncomfortable. 

Peter Drucker’s insight underscores this: “The best way to predict your future is to create it.”

The way someone manages their time with you can reflect their genuine intentions and priorities.

3) Their body language is closed off

Body language tells a story that words often can’t.

Closed-off body language—crossed arms, lack of eye contact, turning away—might indicate discomfort or a lack of enjoyment in your company.

Experts in non-verbal communication suggest that up to 55% of our communication is conveyed through body language.

That’s more than half of what we ‘say’ to each other!

Words may express happiness to spend time together, but body language can reveal disinterest.

Trust those non-verbal cues; they often speak louder than words.

4) They often cancel plans

Having plans cancelled can be disappointing.

We all have things come up unexpectedly, but if it becomes a recurring pattern with the same person, it might be a sign they don’t enjoy hanging out with you.

I recall a friend from my college years.

Let’s call him Mark. Mark and I would plan to go for a run or grab a coffee together, but more often than not, he’d cancel at the last minute.

At first, I brushed it off. We all have busy schedules, right?

But after a while, I started noticing the pattern. Almost every time we had plans, something would “come up.”

This was hurtful and confusing, but eventually, I recognized it as a subtle indication that Mark might not value our hangouts as much as I did.

Reflecting on this, Jean-Paul Sartre’s insight comes to mind: “We are our choices.”

How someone consistently behaves towards you often reveals their true feelings and priorities.

5) They rarely initiate plans

Making plans is a two-way street.

Always being the one to initiate hangouts, with the other person never taking the lead, could signal a lack of eagerness to spend time together.

A person who enjoys your company will actively seek to see you and put in the effort to make it happen.

They’ll initiate plans, suggest activities, and show enthusiasm about hanging out.

On the other hand, consistently waiting for you to make the first move or displaying indifference might subtly hint at disinterest.

Relationships thrive on mutual effort, so a one-sided dynamic may require an open conversation.

6) They don’t share personal stories or feelings

Sharing personal stories and feelings is essential for deepening any relationship.

It allows us to connect, empathize, and understand each other on a meaningful level.

When conversations remain surface-level, and the person avoids discussing their life or feelings, it might subtly indicate discomfort or disinterest in spending time with you.

Someone who enjoys your company will feel safe opening up, revealing their thoughts and emotions, and trusting you with their vulnerabilities.

Frequent deflection of personal questions or a tendency to change the topic when discussions become deeper may suggest they’re holding back for a reason.

Genuine connection involves being there for each other through both the highs and the lows, not just sharing fun moments.

7) They don’t laugh at your jokes

There was a time I noticed a friend of mine stopped laughing at my jokes.

What used to make them chuckle now received nothing more than a polite smile or a forced laugh.

Sure, not all my jokes are award-winning, but this shift was noticeable.

Laughter is a powerful connector between people. It breaks the ice, eases tension, and often signals genuine enjoyment.

A sudden change in their response to your humor may subtly suggest a decline in enjoyment during your time together.

Of course, humor is subjective.

But if you feel like your attempts to lighten the mood consistently fall flat, it might be worth paying attention to.

It could be a subtle behavior indicating they’re not having as much fun hanging out with you as you thought.

8) They agree with everything you say

You might assume that someone agreeing with everything you say indicates they enjoy your company.

After all, who doesn’t like being right? Paradoxically, this could subtly suggest they’re not really into hanging out with you.

Relationships thrive on healthy debates and disagreements.

They demonstrate investment, engagement, and a level of comfort with the other person.

Always nodding along without expressing their own opinions or challenging yours might indicate disengagement or an attempt to avoid potential conflict.

As Oscar Wilde noted, “The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about.”

Genuine connections involve more than constant agreement; they are built on the safety to disagree and share differing views.

Final reflection: It’s about respect

When it boils down to it, the way we treat others is a reflection of our respect for them.

Every action, every word, every subtle behavior – they all speak volumes about how much we value the person in front of us.

The renowned author and motivational speaker, Stephen R. Covey, once said, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”

This statement holds a profound truth about human interactions.

When someone genuinely enjoys your company, they make an effort to spend time with you, and they show it through their actions and words.

If you find yourself constantly questioning whether someone enjoys your company based on their behaviors, it’s important to remember that you deserve respect and genuine interaction.

It’s not always easy to face the truth, but recognizing these signs can save you from prolonged discomfort and confusion.

After all, everyone deserves to be around people who truly appreciate and enjoy their company.

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Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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