If you do these 8 things for your partner, you’re deeply in love

Love is a funny thing, isn’t it? It’s not always about grand gestures and Hollywood movie moments. In fact, it often comes down to the little things you do every day.

I’m Tina Fey, founder of the Love Connection blog and I’ve come to realize that there are certain actions that truly demonstrate the depth of your love for your partner.

In this article, I’ll share with you eight things that, if you find yourself doing for your partner, scream nothing but deep, profound love.

These aren’t your run-of-the-mill gestures. They’re subtle yet meaningful actions that speak volumes about your feelings.

Let’s get started. 

1) You prioritize their happiness

Isn’t it true that when we’re deeply in love, our partner’s happiness becomes intertwined with our own?

For those truly in love, their partner’s smile is more precious than any personal gain. This isn’t about being a doormat or losing your identity. It’s about valuing and cherishing what brings joy to the one you love.

For instance, you might find yourself going out of your way to make their favorite breakfast, or willingly watching a movie genre you’d never pick for yourself, just because you know they’d enjoy it.

This isn’t about sacrificing your own happiness or needs. It’s about finding happiness in their happiness. It’s like the old saying goes, “Love is not just looking at each other, it’s looking in the same direction.”

This isn’t something we do for everyone in our lives. It’s a clear sign of deep love and affection. 

2) You communicate openly

As a relationship expert, if there’s one thing I cannot stress enough, it’s the power of open communication in a relationship.

When you’re deeply in love, you value communication with your partner above all else. You understand that love isn’t just about the butterflies in your stomach or the romantic dates. It’s also about discussing problems, expressing feelings, and resolving conflicts in a healthy manner.

This doesn’t mean that there won’t be disagreements or arguments. But when you’re deeply in love, you don’t shy away from these discussions. Instead, you see them as opportunities to understand your partner better and bring you closer.

In the wise words of George Bernard Shaw, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place”.

3) You respect each other’s individuality

One of the most beautiful things about being deeply in love is that it doesn’t come at the cost of your individuality.

As someone who’s been studying relationships for years and even penned the book, “Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship”, I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to maintain your sense of self in a relationship.

When you’re deeply in love, you understand that your partner is a whole person outside the relationship, with their own passions, interests, and quirks. And you love them for it. You don’t want to change them, control them or smother their independence.

Instead, you celebrate their uniqueness and encourage them to pursue their individual goals and dreams. Because you know that a healthy relationship isn’t about losing yourself in each other, but growing together while remaining true to who you are as individuals.

4) You’re comfortable with silences

This might seem a bit counterintuitive. After all, didn’t I just mention the importance of communication?

But here’s the thing: being deeply in love also means being comfortable in each other’s company without the need for constant chatter.

You know those moments when you’re both doing your own thing, not saying a word, and yet it doesn’t feel awkward or tense? That’s the golden silence I’m talking about.

In a world where we’re so used to filling every silence with noise, it’s a beautiful sign of deep love when you can sit together in silence and simply enjoy each other’s presence.

It shows a level of comfort and understanding that transcends words. It indicates that your connection with each other is so strong that you don’t always need words to communicate.

5) You have a shared sense of humor

There’s something incredibly special about sharing a laugh with the one you love. As someone who’s spent a fair amount of time in the comedy world, I can tell you that humor is a potent connector.

When you’re deeply in love, shared jokes, silly puns, and even the corniest knock-knock jokes become precious memories. You find joy in seeing your partner’s eyes light up with laughter and their face crinkle up in amusement.

Having a shared sense of humor is more than just about having fun though. It’s about understanding each other on a deeper level and being able to communicate in a language that’s unique to your relationship.

6) You’re not afraid to show your vulnerability

Let’s get real for a moment. Love isn’t always about the laughs and the good times. It’s also about the tears, the fears, and the moments of uncertainty.

Being deeply in love means being comfortable enough to show your raw, vulnerable side to your partner. It’s about trusting them with your deepest insecurities, your darkest fears, and your most painful memories.

It’s not easy. It takes courage to let someone see you at your weakest. But when you’re deeply in love, you know that showing vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but a strength. It allows your partner to understand you better and provides them an opportunity to show their love and support in return.

7) You prioritize their needs

I’m going to be honest here, being in love isn’t always easy. It requires sacrifice, compromise, and sometimes, putting your partner’s needs before your own.

When you’re deeply in love, you find yourself caring for your partner’s needs as much as your own. It could be as simple as giving up the last slice of pizza or as significant as changing your plans to support them in a crisis.

In the words of the great Maya Angelou, “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope”. And sometimes, that means prioritizing your partner’s needs over your own.

This is not about neglecting your own needs or losing your self-respect. It’s about finding a balance and being willing to make sacrifices for the one you love.

8) You accept their flaws

Here’s the raw truth: nobody’s perfect. We all have our quirks and flaws.

When you’re deeply in love, you don’t just tolerate your partner’s flaws; you accept them. You understand that these imperfections are a part of who they are, and you love them, not despite these flaws, but with them.

This isn’t about idealizing your partner or ignoring issues that may be harmful to your relationship. It’s about acknowledging that they, like everyone else, have their own set of weaknesses and still choosing to love them.

You realize that love isn’t about finding the perfect person, but about seeing an imperfect person perfectly.

If you’ve accepted your partner, warts and all, and still love them wholeheartedly, then my friend, you’re deeply in love. Because true love is about embracing all aspects of a person – the good, the bad, and everything in between.

Conclusion

Being deeply in love is a beautiful, profound experience that goes beyond mere words. It’s about the little gestures, the shared moments, the sacrifices, and the acceptance of each other’s flaws.

If you find yourself doing these eight things for your partner, then you’re not just in love, but deeply in love. And that’s something truly special.

Love is a journey of growth and understanding. If you want to delve deeper into maintaining a healthy balance in your relationship, you might find my book “Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship” useful.

Love deeply, communicate openly, laugh freely and remember, the best relationships are the ones where you can be your truest selves together.