If you never want to be cheated on in a relationship, say goodbye to these 8 behaviors

There’s a stark difference between being a part of a loving relationship and being a part of one where you’re constantly worrying about infidelity.

The difference? It’s all about behavior. Being cheated on isn’t always just about the other person’s actions – sometimes, it’s about our own behaviors that unknowingly invite disloyalty.

I’m Tina Fey, the founder of Love Connection blog and a relationship expert. I believe that to have a healthy relationship, you should be able to trust your partner without constantly doubting them.

And for that, there are certain behaviors you need to say goodbye to.

In this article, I’ll share with you the 8 behaviors you should drop if you never want to be cheated on in a relationship. Remember, change starts with us.

1) Being overly possessive

Possessiveness is a common trait in many relationships, and while it’s normal to feel protective over your significant other, there’s a fine line that shouldn’t be crossed.

Love isn’t about control. It’s about trust, respect, and freedom. But when we become overly possessive, we start to rob our partners of these vital elements.

Think about it. Would you be comfortable in a relationship where you constantly feel suffocated and controlled? Probably not. And it’s the same for your partner.

When people feel trapped, they often seek an escape route – sometimes, unfortunately, in the form of an affair.

So, if you want to build a healthy relationship where cheating is less likely to occur, take a step back from possessive behaviors.

Trust your partner and give them the freedom they deserve.

2) Constant insecurity

Insecurity is something we all deal with from time to time. I, Tina Fey, am no exception.

Despite being a relationship expert, I’ve had my fair share of insecure moments in relationships. And let me tell you, it can cause a lot of unnecessary strain.

Feeling insecure about yourself can lead to unnecessary jealousy, suspicion, and a constant need for validation from your partner.

This not only puts a burden on your partner but also creates an unhealthy dynamic in the relationship.

As the great Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” It’s important to work on self-love and self-esteem.

When you’re secure in who you are, you bring a level of confidence and positivity into your relationship that can help foster trust and loyalty.

3) Codependency

Codependency is something I’ve seen a lot in my years as a relationship expert.

It’s when you rely heavily on your partner for your happiness and self-worth, often to the point where it’s unhealthy.

I’ve been there myself, and I know how hard it can be to break free from this cycle.

It’s why I wrote my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

In a codependent relationship, the fear of losing your partner can be so extreme that you might tolerate behaviors like cheating, just to keep them around.

But believe me, that’s not the kind of love you deserve.

Saying goodbye to codependency means learning to stand on your own two feet.

It’s about finding happiness within yourself and realizing that while your partner can add to your life, they shouldn’t be your entire life.

4) Avoiding conflict

Who likes conflict, right? But hear me out.

Avoiding conflict in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re maintaining peace.

It often means you’re sweeping issues under the rug. And guess what?

Those issues pile up over time and can lead to resentment, misunderstanding, and yes, even cheating.

Contrary to popular belief, conflict isn’t always a bad thing.

It’s a chance to express your feelings, understand your partner’s perspective, and work towards a resolution together. It’s an opportunity for growth.

So, instead of avoiding conflict, learn how to navigate it in a healthy way.

Express your feelings honestly but respectfully, listen to your partner’s point of view, and find a compromise that works for both of you.

Facing conflict head-on might be uncomfortable at first, but it’s far better than letting unresolved issues fester and potentially harm your relationship.

5) Lack of communication

As a relationship expert, I can’t stress enough the importance of open and honest communication.

And from my own personal experience, I can tell you that it’s often the difference between a successful relationship and a disastrous one.

When you’re not communicating effectively, misunderstandings can occur, feelings can get hurt, and over time, your partner might feel unheard or unappreciated.

This could potentially lead them to seek understanding and appreciation elsewhere, resulting in infidelity.

If you want to keep your relationship cheat-proof, make sure you’re communicating regularly and honestly with your partner.

Share your thoughts, express your feelings, discuss your fears and dreams. It’s about creating a safe space where both of you feel heard and understood.

6) Ignoring your partner’s needs

This one is raw, but it needs to be said. Ignoring your partner’s emotional, physical, and mental needs is a surefire way to invite trouble into your relationship.

We all have needs – for affection, for understanding, for support, for intimacy.

When these needs are consistently ignored or dismissed in a relationship, it can lead to feelings of loneliness and neglect.

And sometimes, sadly, it can push a person to seek fulfilment elsewhere.

It’s not about catering to your partner’s every whim and desire. It’s about acknowledging their needs and finding ways to meet them within the boundaries of a healthy, balanced relationship.

Let’s strive to understand our partners better and make them feel valued and loved. Because at the end of the day, isn’t that what we all want in a relationship?

7) Lack of personal growth

Personal growth is something I hold dear. In my own journey, I’ve realized that stagnation can lead to dissatisfaction, not just in life, but also in relationships.

As the brilliant Albert Einstein once said, “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” The same applies to relationships.

When you stop growing as a person, you inadvertently hinder the growth of your relationship too.

If you’re not evolving, learning new things, or challenging yourself, it can lead to a sense of boredom or dissatisfaction.

And that can create a void that might tempt one to seek excitement or fulfillment elsewhere.

8) Neglecting your own needs

Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, is neglecting your own needs. It might seem selfless to always put your partner first, but in truth, it’s detrimental to both you and your relationship.

Neglecting your own needs can lead to resentment, unhappiness, and burnout. And when you’re not happy with yourself, it reflects in your relationship.

Your partner isn’t responsible for your happiness. You are. Ignoring this fact can put undue pressure on your partner and create an unhealthy dynamic in your relationship.

So let’s be honest with ourselves. Let’s identify our needs and take steps to fulfill them.

Because a healthy relationship is one where both partners take care of themselves as well as each other.

Take care of yourself first and the rest will follow.

Conclusion

Saying goodbye to these behaviors isn’t just about preventing infidelity. It’s about building a healthier, more fulfilling relationship for both you and your partner.

Change takes time and effort. But trust me, it’s worth it.

So let’s start today. Let’s say goodbye to these behaviors and hello to healthier ones.

If you want to delve deeper into overcoming codependency, I invite you to read my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship.

Let’s commit to building relationships that are based on trust, respect, and mutual growth.

After all, isn’t that what love is all about?