If you want to be more appreciated as you get older, say goodbye to these 8 behaviors

If you want folks to value you more as the years roll by, there are certain habits you need to kick. It’s not as easy as it sounds, though.

After all, we’re creatures of habit and breaking away can be a tough ask.

However, change is essential. And if you’re like me, wanting to age gracefully and be cherished more, then it’s high time to say goodbye to these 8 behaviors.

Follow me as I break them down for you, in the simplest way possible.

1) Waving goodbye to the habit of not listening

Listening, truly listening, is an art that’s getting lost in the noise.

We’re so caught up in our worlds, our thoughts, and our devices, that we often forget to give our full attention to the person in front of us. This can make people feel unheard and unimportant.

As we grow older, it becomes increasingly necessary to tune in and really listen to what others have to say.

It’s not just about nodding your head while they speak but about understanding their perspective, their feelings, their needs.

By doing so, you show empathy, respect and make others feel valued. This simple act of attentive listening can boost your appreciation levels significantly.

And trust me, it’s worth it.

2) Letting go of the need to always be right

I’ll admit it, I used to be that person who always had to have the last word. I was so convinced that my opinion was the correct one, that I would argue my point until I was blue in the face.

But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that being right isn’t as important as being kind. I’ve realized that not every disagreement needs to turn into a debate, and sometimes it’s better to agree to disagree.

Now, instead of insisting on my viewpoint, I try to understand where the other person is coming from.

This doesn’t mean I abandon my beliefs, but rather that I’m open to seeing things from different perspectives.

This change in behavior has made a world of difference in my relationships. People appreciate the respect I give their opinions and value me more for it.

Let me tell you, it’s a relief to let go of the need to always be right. It opens up a whole new world of understanding and appreciation.

3) Abandoning the habit of constant complaining

Did you know the average person complains nearly 30 times a day without even realizing it? Sounds unbelievable, right? But it’s true.

Complaining can become a habit, and like any habit, it can be hard to break. However, constant negativity can drain your energy and the energy of those around you.

It also paints you in an unfavorable light.

As we age, it’s important to focus on the positive aspects of life and let go of the constant criticism.

Instead of complaining about what’s wrong, try to find solutions or focus on what’s going right.

This shift in mindset can drastically improve how others perceive and appreciate you. Because let’s face it, nobody enjoys being around a chronic complainer.

4) Shaking off the habit of self-centeredness

We all have moments of self-centeredness, it’s human nature. But if it becomes a persistent behavior, it can make others around us feel undervalued and overlooked.

As we get older, it’s crucial to cultivate a sense of community and connection.

This involves showing interest in others’ lives, lending an ear when they need to talk, and celebrating their achievements as if they were our own.

By moving the spotlight from ourselves to others, we can foster stronger bonds and gain more appreciation from those around us.

Life isn’t just about us. It’s about all the people who make our journey worthwhile.

5) Bidding farewell to the habit of being judgmental

I’ve come to realize that being judgmental does more harm than good. I used to be quick to form opinions about people based on their actions or their choices.

But over time, I learned that everyone has a unique journey and what may seem right for me may not necessarily be right for them.

Now, I make a conscious effort to be more open-minded and accepting.

Instead of judging others, I try to understand their perspective. It’s not always easy, but it’s definitely worth it.

Since embracing this change, I’ve noticed a significant improvement in my relationships.

People open up to me more, they trust me more and, most importantly, they appreciate me more.

Life’s too short to pass judgment. It’s much more rewarding to accept and appreciate people for who they are.

6) Discarding the habit of always being in control

It might seem strange, but letting go of always wanting to be in control can make you more appreciated.

Many of us have a tendency to micromanage every detail of our lives and sometimes, the lives of those around us.

This can come off as overbearing and suffocating to others. It also sends a subtle message that we don’t trust the abilities and judgment of the people around us.

As we mature, it’s essential to learn to loosen our grip a bit. Let others take the lead sometimes, let things unfold naturally, and learn to trust in the process.

This doesn’t mean you should become passive or indifferent, but rather that you should give others the chance to shine and make their own decisions.

You’ll be surprised at how this change can increase the respect and appreciation people have for you.

7) Breaking free from the habit of not expressing gratitude

Gratitude is a magical thing. It can transform ordinary moments into something special and make people feel valued and loved. But we often forget to express it.

As we are getting older, it’s important to make a conscious effort to show gratitude towards the people who make a difference in our lives.

A simple “thank you” or an acknowledgment of someone’s efforts can go a long way in strengthening relationships and making others feel appreciated.

When people see that you don’t take them for granted, they’re likely to reciprocate the feeling. Make gratitude a daily habit and watch how it enhances your appreciation quotient.

8) Letting go of the habit of not embracing change

Change is the only constant in life. Yet, many of us resist it and cling to our comfort zones.

As we are growing older, it’s crucial to understand that growth and change go hand in hand.

Whether it’s adapting to new technology, accepting different viewpoints, or simply changing old habits, embracing change is key.

By showing your adaptability and willingness to evolve, you not only keep up with the times but also earn the respect and appreciation of those around you.

If there’s one thing you should know about being more appreciated as you get older, it’s this:

Embrace change. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

In conclusion: The art of being appreciated

Let it sink in, these aren’t just behaviors to let go off.

They are stepping stones to becoming a version of yourself that’s not only more appreciated but also more at peace and fulfilled.

Getting rid of these habits isn’t about changing who you are, but about refining your character.

It’s about letting go of the behaviors that limit you and embracing those that enhance your relationships and your own sense of self.

Age is just a number. But how we grow with that number, how we embrace our journey, and how we make others feel along the way, now that’s what truly counts.

As you tread along this path of self-improvement and bid goodbye to these 8 behaviors, remember – every step matters.

And every step brings you closer to becoming a person who’s not just older, but wiser, kinder, and more appreciated.

After all, isn’t that what we all strive for? To be appreciated not just for our age but for the wisdom and kindness we bring along with it.

It’s a journey worth embarking on. So let’s get started.