8 subtle non-verbal signs someone is attracted to you (according to a relationship expert)

There’s a fine line between someone being friendly and them showing romantic interest. That line is often blurred by subtle non-verbal cues that go unnoticed.

Hi, I’m Tina Fey, founder of Love Connection and a relationship expert. I’ve spent years deciphering these hidden signals, and trust me, distinguishing between platonic and romantic feelings can be quite the task.

But fret not! I’m here to share some insider knowledge with you.

I’ve compiled a list of 8 subtle non-verbal signs that someone is attracted to you. This isn’t about mind-reading, folks – it’s about paying attention to those little details that can reveal a world of feelings.

So, let’s delve into these non-verbal cues and make your love life a tad bit less complicated, shall we?

1) Eye contact

Now let’s dive into the deep end.

There’s a common saying that the eyes are the windows to the soul, and in my experience, that couldn’t be more accurate.

Eyes reveal a lot about our feelings and intentions. When someone is attracted to you, they’ll often maintain longer and more intense eye contact.

It’s as if they’re trying to connect with you on a deeper level, to understand you better.

And it’s not just about the duration of the gaze. It’s about the quality too. There’s a certain kind of sparkle or warmth that comes with romantic interest.

While prolonged eye contact can be a sign of attraction, it’s important not to jump to conclusions based on this sign alone. Always consider it in combination with other signals.

2) Body language

The next sign on our list is body language, and boy, does it speak volumes.

Body language can tell you a lot about what a person is feeling, often more than words can.

If someone is leaning in when they talk to you, mirroring your movements, or “accidentally” brushing against you, they might be expressing their attraction.

I’ve observed this time and again in my work as a relationship expert. It’s almost like our bodies are hardwired to communicate our feelings before we’ve even processed them consciously.

A wise woman once said, “The body says what words cannot.” That woman was Martha Graham, a pioneer of modern dance. I think her words perfectly encapsulate the power of body language.

So next time you’re talking with someone who you think might be attracted to you, take a moment to observe their body language. It might be telling you everything you need to know.

3) Nervous gestures

Nervousness can often be a tell-tale sign of attraction, and it’s something I’ve seen countless times in my career as a relationship expert.

When someone is attracted to you, they might fidget, play with their hair, or even stutter a bit.

It’s as if their nervous system is on high alert, trying to impress you or fearing they might say the wrong thing.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I delve deeper into these behaviors and discuss how understanding and interpreting these subtle signs can significantly improve your relationships.

4) Giving you space

This one might seem counterintuitive, but hear me out.

Sometimes, when a person is attracted to you, they may give you more space instead of less.

It’s not because they aren’t interested, but because they respect your personal space and don’t want to come off as too needy or intrusive.

It’s a delicate balance, isn’t it? They want to be close, yet they also want to give you room to breathe. It’s a sign of their genuine care for your comfort and personal boundaries.

It’s subtle, but it’s there. Sometimes the signs of attraction aren’t about closeness, but about the respect that comes with distance.

5) They remember the little things

Here’s another subtle sign that often goes unnoticed – they remember the little things you’ve shared about yourself.

From your favorite band to your pet peeve about mismatched socks, if they remember these small details, it could be a sign that they’re attracted to you.

It shows that they’re genuinely interested in who you are and what makes you, well, you.

I’ll share a personal tidbit here. I once mentioned my love for vanilla lattes in passing during a conversation. The next time we met, guess what?

He had a vanilla latte waiting for me. It was a small gesture, but it spoke volumes about his interest and attentiveness.

Keep an ear out for these memory moments. They might be telling you something important.

6) They show vulnerability

When someone is attracted to you, they often allow themselves to be vulnerable around you.

They might share personal stories, express their fears, or even show their insecurities. It’s as if they trust you enough to let their guard down and let you see them for who they truly are – flaws and all.

This vulnerability is a beautiful sign of attraction. It shows a level of comfort and trust that goes beyond surface-level interactions.

7) They make time for you

We all lead busy lives, don’t we? And yet, if someone is genuinely attracted to you, they will make time for you, no matter how hectic their schedule might be.

Whether it’s a quick lunch break catch-up or a late-night conversation, they’ll find ways to integrate you into their day. It’s their way of saying, “You matter to me.”

A wise man named H. Jackson Brown Jr. once said, “Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.”

I love this quote because it reminds us of the value of time and the choices we make with it.

In my own life, I’ve noticed that when someone cares about me, they don’t just find time; they make time. And that, my friends, speaks louder than words.

8) They’re there for you

Last but certainly not least, when someone is attracted to you, they’re there for you.

Whether you’ve had a bad day and need someone to vent to, or you’re celebrating a big win and need someone to share your joy with, they’re there.

They show up for you consistently, not just when it’s convenient or easy.

This unwavering support can often be a sign of deeper feelings. After all, attraction isn’t just about the fun times; it’s about being there through the highs and lows, the good days and the bad ones.

At the end of the day, attraction is about more than just physical appeal; it’s about emotional connection too.

Conclusion

Interpreting subtle signs of attraction can seem like a complex task, but with a little bit of observation and understanding, it can become easier.

These signs are not definitive proof of someone’s feelings, but they can provide some insight.

Attraction is not just about the big gestures; it’s about the subtle cues that often go unnoticed. So keep an eye out for these signs, and you might just uncover hidden feelings.

For more insights into relationships and understanding the dynamics of attraction, check out my book Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s packed with advice and techniques to help you navigate the complex world of relationships.

Take your time, observe, and enjoy the ride.