8 unusual things men do when they’ve fallen in love, says a relationship expert

Men can be quite mysterious when it comes to expressing their love. But guess what?

They have some unique ways of showing it.

Instead of grand declarations or sweeping gestures, many men reveal their feelings through small, unexpected behaviors that speak volumes.

As a relationship expert, I’ve discovered some unusual – yet surefire – signs a man exhibits when he’s truly fallen in love. And today, I’m going to share these 8 unusual things men do when they’re head over heels in love.

1) He listens… really listens

In the world of love, communication is key. But, surprisingly, not just any type of communication.

As a relationship expert, I can tell you that one of the most unusual signs of a man in love is his newfound ability to listen – and I mean really listen.

You see, men aren’t typically known for their listening skills. But when they stumble upon love, something shifts. Suddenly, every word you say becomes important to them. They:

• Pay attention to your stories
• Remember your likes and dislikes
• Recall trivial details from your past conversations

This unusual behavior is a man’s way of showing he cares about you and your experiences. It’s as if he’s silently saying, “I’m interested in your world because I’m interested in you.”

And while it may seem like a small thing, this kind of attentive listening is a powerful sign of love.

After all, true love means caring about someone else’s stories as much as your own.

2) He starts to mirror you

In my years of observing and studying relationships, I’ve noticed an unusual pattern in men who are in love – they tend to mirror their partner’s actions.

You might find him:

• Picking up your catch phrases
• Laughing at the same things you do
• Starting to enjoy your favorite TV show

This subtle mimicking is his unconscious way of connecting with you on a deeper level.

I remember when my partner started drinking coffee because I did.

At first, he didn’t like it. But now?

He’s a full-blown coffee enthusiast. It was an unusual sign of love that I didn’t see coming.

So ladies, if you notice your man starting to reflect your habits or interests, don’t write it off as coincidence. It’s his unusual way of saying, “I love you.”

3) He starts to compromise

Let’s face it, compromise isn’t easy, especially when you’re used to doing things your way. But when a man is in love, his stubbornness often takes the backseat, and he begins to compromise.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss how true love requires flexibility and compromise. And that’s exactly what happens when a man falls in love.

He starts to consider your feelings and preferences before making decisions, even if it means changing his own plans.

I remember a time when my partner, a die-hard football fan, gave up watching his favorite game just to accompany me to a pottery class I really wanted to attend.

It was so out of character for him that it took me by surprise. But looking back, it was an unusual sign that he was in love.

Ladies, if your man starts to compromise for your happiness, take note. It’s one of those unusual signs that he’s truly fallen for you.

4) He needs more alone time

Now, this might sound counterintuitive. Shouldn’t a man in love want to spend as much time as possible with the woman he loves?

Yes, but here’s the catch. When a man falls deeply in love, he often needs time to process his feelings.

This might mean he starts to crave more alone time. It’s not that he’s pulling away from you; it’s just his way of digesting the depth of his emotions.

I remember being puzzled when my partner, who was usually eager to spend time together, suddenly needed more ‘me’ time. It seemed odd at first, but I soon realized it was his way of coming to terms with his feelings for me.

So ladies, if your man suddenly needs more alone time, don’t panic. It might be an unusual sign that he’s falling in love with you.

5) He takes interest in your hobbies

Does he suddenly want to join your yoga classes or tag along when you go to book club meetings?

This could be an unusual sign that he’s fallen in love.

When a man is in love, he develops a genuine interest in the things that matter to you. He wants to understand and be a part of your world, even if it involves activities he wouldn’t normally enjoy.

I recall a time when my partner, a self-confessed indoorsy type, offered to accompany me on my hiking trips.

I was pleasantly surprised by his sudden interest in my beloved hobby. It was his way of showing that he cared about the things I loved.

Love isn’t just about sharing common interests; it’s also about embracing each other’s passions.

6) He’s not afraid to show vulnerability

Let’s get real. Men are often taught to hide their emotions, to put on a brave face. But when a man falls in love, those walls start to crumble.

If he’s willing to open up and show you his vulnerabilities, it’s a raw and honest sign that he trusts you with his deepest emotions.

He’s not afraid of letting you see him in his most authentic state, even if it means revealing his fears and insecurities.

I remember the moment my partner first cried in front of me. It was so out of character for him that I knew then that he truly trusted me with his heart.

So ladies, if your man is comfortable showing his vulnerabilities around you, don’t take it lightly. It’s a deeply personal sign of his love for you.

7) He becomes protective

One of the most endearing signs a man is in love is how protective he becomes.

I remember when my partner started to insist on driving me home after our dates, no matter how late at night it was.

That was his way of ensuring I was safe. It was an unusual sign of love I didn’t notice at first but appreciated later.

But remember, there’s a fine line between being protective and possessive. Make sure his actions are coming from a place of love and respect.

8) He includes you in his future plans

This is as raw and honest as it gets. When a man is in love, he can’t imagine his future without you in it. He starts to include you in his long-term plans, whether it’s a vacation next year or his career goals.

This isn’t about making grand, unrealistic promises. It’s about him genuinely seeing a future with you and wanting to make plans that include you.

I remember my partner casually mentioning how he’d love for us to visit Italy together the following summer. It wasn’t a grand gesture, but the implication was clear: he saw us together in the future.

So ladies, if your man starts talking about the future and includes you in it, it’s an honest sign that he’s truly fallen in love with you.

Final thoughts

For more insights on love and relationships, check out my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It’s filled with practical advice to help you build a healthy, balanced relationship where both partners feel valued and loved.