Women who aren’t completely honest with themselves usually display these 7 behaviors (without realizing it)

Remember when your mom told you, “Honesty is the best policy?”

Well, she was onto something. Honesty, especially with oneself, is crucial for personal growth and self-improvement.

But let’s face it, it’s not always easy to be brutally honest with ourselves.

Here’s the kicker.

Some of us women may not even realize that we’re not being totally honest with ourselves.

So, if you’re thinking “Am I truly being honest with myself?” then stick around. We’re about to walk through seven common behaviors often displayed by women who aren’t completely honest with themselves (and might not even realize it).

1) Ignoring their gut feelings

You know that little voice inside your head? The one that sometimes whispers, “Hey, something’s not right here.” Well, that’s your intuition talking.

Here’s the deal.

When women aren’t completely honest with themselves, they tend to ignore this inner voice. They push away gut feelings and instincts, often because acknowledging them might be uncomfortable or require them to address certain truths about themselves.

But remember, your intuition is there for a reason. It’s a built-in guide, like a compass pointing you towards your truth.

So ladies, next time that inner voice speaks up, take a moment to listen. You might be surprised at what you discover.

2) Setting unrealistic goals

Have you ever set a goal that, deep down, you knew was unattainable? I’ve been there too.

Once, I set a goal to run a marathon within a month, despite the fact that I hadn’t jogged more than a mile in years. A part of me knew it was an unrealistic goal, but I wasn’t honest enough with myself to admit it.

Here’s what happens.

When we aren’t completely honest with ourselves, we tend to set lofty goals that are out of reach. We do this to avoid confronting our limitations or to escape the discomfort of admitting we might need to start smaller or work harder.

Setting unrealistic goals only sets us up for failure and disappointment. It’s important to aim high, but it’s equally important to be honest about what’s achievable and what isn’t.

Remember, it’s okay to take baby steps. Progress is progress, no matter how small.

3) Playing the blame game

Let’s get real for a moment.

Have you ever found yourself blaming others for your own mistakes or misfortunes? Pointing fingers at everyone else, but yourself?

I’m guilty of this. Once, when I missed an important deadline at work, I was quick to blame my team for not supporting me enough. But in reality, I had procrastinated and failed to manage my time effectively.

Here’s the truth.

When we aren’t honest with ourselves, it’s easier to shift blame onto others rather than accepting our own shortcomings. It’s a defense mechanism, a way to protect our ego. But all it does is hinder our growth and prevent us from learning valuable lessons.

Nobody’s perfect and we all make mistakes. Admitting our faults doesn’t make us weak, it makes us human. And the sooner we accept this, the sooner we can start growing from our mistakes.

4) Avoiding tough conversations

Ever dodged a heart-to-heart because it seemed too difficult or uncomfortable? You’re not alone.

Avoiding tough conversations is a common behaviour among those not being totally honest with themselves. We skirt around issues, put off confrontations, and avoid difficult discussions at all costs.

But here’s the twist.

By avoiding these uncomfortable conversations, we’re simply delaying the inevitable. We’re putting a band-aid on a wound that really needs stitches.

So next time you find yourself avoiding a tough talk, take a deep breath, and face it head-on.

Yes, it might be uncomfortable, but it’s also the first step towards honesty, understanding, and resolution.

5) Overcommitting themselves

Did you know that women, especially working mothers, are more likely to experience role overload? That’s when we take on more roles and responsibilities than we can effectively handle.

Here’s the thing.

Sometimes we overcommit ourselves because we’re not being honest about our capacity. We say ‘yes’ to everything – from volunteering for the school bake sale, to agreeing to take on extra work projects – even when we’re already stretched thin.

Overcommitment is a recipe for burnout. It’s crucial to understand our limitations and to be okay with saying ‘no’ when necessary.

Remember, taking care of yourself isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. And being honest about what you can handle is the first step towards self-care.

6) Constantly comparing themselves to others

We’ve all been there: scrolling through social media, looking at everyone else’s highlight reels, feeling like we just don’t measure up.

But here’s a gentle reminder.

Each one of us is on our own unique journey, with our own milestones and timelines. When we’re not completely honest with ourselves, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s ‘perfect’ moments.

Instead of comparing, let’s try celebrating – both our own achievements and those of others. Remind yourself that it’s perfectly okay to be a work in progress; we all are.

Strive for progress, not perfection. You’re doing better than you think you are.

7) Not prioritizing their own needs

Many women often put the needs of others before their own.

While it’s wonderful to be caring and nurturing, neglecting our own needs can be a sign that we’re not being completely honest with ourselves about what we want and need.

You matter. Your dreams matter. Your happiness matters. It’s important to make yourself a priority and to be honest about what you need to thrive.

Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first, so you can better care for others.

The final thought

It’s quite possible that you identified with some, or maybe even all, of the behaviors we’ve discussed.

If so, don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s all part of the human experience.

Here’s the silver lining – acknowledging these behaviors is the first step towards self-honesty. With recognition and a bit of dedication, you can change these habits.

Begin by observing your actions and reactions. Notice when you’re avoiding those tough conversations or setting unrealistic goals. Pay attention to when you’re neglecting your own needs to please others.

Next, ask yourself: “Is this behavior serving my best self?” If not, what can you do differently?

This journey towards self-honesty is not a sprint; it’s a marathon. It takes time and patience. But remember, each small step you take is a step closer to a more authentic you.

So take it easy on yourself. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small it may seem. After all, the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.